‘n Uitdaging tot ‘n leefstyl van dankbaarheid

‘n Uitdaging tot ‘n leefstyl van dankbaarheid

deur Marietjie Landsberg

Vroeg een wonderlike somers Vyrstaat oggend besluit ek om vinnig vir tien minute met ‘n tydskrif te ontspan. Bietjie kwaliteittyd met myself. Ek lees die volgende woorde wat my na my asem laat snak.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into   acceptance, chaos into order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. – Melody Beattie.

Dankbaarheid, regtig? Kan dankbaarheid so iets doen. Wanneer laas was jy opreg dankbaar?

Vinnig kan ons almal antwoord, ek het my kollega nou net bedank vir sy raad, of ek het vir die kelner by die restaurant dankie gesê vir vinnige diens.

Is dit opregte dankbaarheid of eenvoudig beleefdheid? Slegs iets wat jy doen uit gewoonte omdat dit van jou verwag word.

Sodra jy met ander begin gesels oor dankbaarheid sal daar ook die wees wat vinnig kan sê ek het niks om voor dankbaar te wees nie. Ek het my werk verloor, ‘n geliefde is oorlede, ek sukkel finansieel, ek is besig om te knak onder druk.

My antwoord hierop is dat jy nie hoef dankie te sê vir die slegte dinge nie. Die Bybel sê nie dat jy dankbaar moet wees vir die kwaad nie, maar jy kan in elke situasie, maak nie saak hoe sleg dit is nie, vir God dankie sê omdat Sy doelwit groter as jou probleem is.

Jim Stovall vertel in sy boek, The Ultimate Life, die verhaal van ‘n boemelaar wat altyd gelukkig was en nooit ‘n slegte dag beleef het nie. Vir enige persoon is dit heeltemal te goed om waar te wees en terselfder tyd is ons nuuskierig om te weet hoe hy dit reg gekry het.  Jim se antwoord is eenvoudig. Die boemelaar het daagliks sy “Golden List” opgestel. Elke oggend  as hy wakker word, voordat hy opstaan om die lewe in die oë te kyk, het hy ‘n lys gemaak van ten minste 10 dinge in sy lewe waarvoor hy kan dankbaar wees. Die lys het soms baie meer as 10 punte bevat en ander kere het hy gesukkel om tot by 10 uit te kom. Die slotsom is dat die boemelaar so gefokus was op dit waarvoor hy dankbaar kon wees in die lewe, dat hy nie gefokus het op die negatiewe en slegte dinge nie. Die punt is hy het ‘n keuse gemaak om uit dankbaarheid te lewe.

Sodra jy begin om ‘n “sogenaamde“ Golden List op te stel sal jy besef dat ons meestal fokus op die eenvoudige dinge. My werk, my huis, my kar, kos op my tafel ensovoorts. Wat van my verstand om gesonde beslutie te kan neem, gesondheid, my vriendin wat ek kan skakel in tyd van nood of hartseer, die vermoë om trauma en chaos te hanteer en dalk die dokter wat kennis het om medisyne voor te skryf om my gesond te maak? Hoe langer mens aan hierdie lys werk hoe meer en meer kom jy tot die besef dat dit waar jy is en wat jy het, slegs genade is.

Om oor dankbaarheid te besin kan mens sentimenteel laat optree of tot die verwronge idee bring dat dankbaarheid ‘n verpligting moet wees.  Ware dankbaarheid begin as jy kan aanvaar dat dit wat met jou gebeur deel is van God se plan met jou lewe.

Dankbaarheid en genade is woorde wat hul oorsprong vind in die Latynse woord gratus wat ook verblydend beteken. Dit omvou die stille wete en emosie dat wanneer jy in ‘n toestand van diep dankbaarheid is, jy dikwels spontaan die teenwoordigheid van genade sal voel. Die genade van ‘n mens se lewe is dat dit jou die vermoë gee om te ervaar wat buite die gees en liggaam aangaan. Waar God die leegheid kom volmaak.

 Ek het die volgende oor dankbaarheid geleer: Dankbaarheid laat jou bid. Dankbaarheid leer jou om altyd jou oë op Jesus te rig. Dankbaarheid beteken dat jy God op Sy woord neem. Dankbaarheid help jou om beter te voel oor slegte dinge. Dankbaarheid leer jou om alles te koester wat jy daagliks ontvang. Dit kom daarop neer dat dankbaarheid is asof iemand ‘n son aangeskakel het in jou binneste.

Brian Tracy het die volgende wyse woorde gesê “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for   everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

Indien elkeen van ons Brain se uitdaging aanvaar en ‘n lewe van dankbaarheid gaan begin leef, sal ons ook soos Riaan Cruywagen kan sê “…ten einde was dit alles net genade”Woorde in sy uittree toespraak wat my weereens laat besef het dat sy nederigheid hom ‘n leefwyse van dankbaarheid laat leef het.

Ten einde kom ons tot die punt waar elkeen van ons ‘n keuse moet maak om ‘n leefstyl van dankbaarheid te kweek. Die leefstyl sal jou laat besef dit is nie meer ‘n geval dat jy net goeie dinge vir jouself kies nie en jou dankbare leefwyse is nie meer afhanklik van jou lewensomstandighede nie. Jy besef dat pyn en vreugde deel is van die geheel. Wanneer hierdie toestand van onbaatsugtige dankbaarheid begin blom, word jou gedagtes ruimer, ook stiller en jou hart ontvang sy eerste smaak van die lang gesogte vrylating van vrees en wil. Dit is genade.

Bronne:

Die Krag van Dankbaarheid. Dr Leon Oosthuizen. Oktober 2010

Genade deur dankbaarheid gevind. Hennie Fritz. 21 Maart 2013

The Ultimate Life. Jim Stovall

Training opportunity

Workshop: 30 August 2013

SPECIAL NEEDS OF WOMEN AND YOUTHS WITH DEPENDENCY AND APPROACHES THAT ARE EFFECTIVE IN HELPING THEM FIND LONG TERM RECOVERY.

SACSSP accredited – CPD Approval no: 366/13 – 5 CPD points.

A certificate of attendance can only be issued after completion of the training and if all sessions have been attended.

Fax or mail completed form and deposit slip to Aurora Centre fax nr:  051 – 447 4225/ e-mail:info@ auroracentre.co.za on/before Friday, 23 August 2013. SORRY NO LATE REGISTRATION!!

Name: _____________________________________

SACSSP No: _______________________________

Organisation: _______________________________

Address: ___________________________________

___________________________________________

Telephone: _________________________________

E Mail address: _____________________________

Please book ASAP because only a limited number of trainees can be accommodated Cost: R390.00 (for training and light refreshments).

Bank details: ABSA

                        Branch Code:  632005

                        Account:  Cheque

                        Account nr:  470 722 665

Enquiries:  051 – 447 7271/5 Santie Froneman             

Venue:  Aurora Alcohol and Drug Centre,

15 Brompton Road, Naval View, Bloemfontein

SPECIAL NEEDS OF WOMEN AND YOUTHS WITH DEPENDENCY AND APPROACHES THAT ARE EFFECTIVE IN HELPING THEM FIND LONG TERM RECOVERY

FACILITATOR: Santie Froneman

PROGRAMME

DAY 1:         08h30 – Tea & Registration

09h00 – Welcome

                        09h15 – Icebreaker and Training Agreements           

                        09h30 – Special needs of Women and approaches that are affective in

helping them find lasting recovery

                        11h00 – Gallery walk small groups and large group

                        12h00 – Lunch

                        12h45 – Special needs of Youth and approaches that are affective in helping them find lasting recovery

                        14h30 – Gallery walk small groups and large group

15h30 –Wrap-up, Evaluation & Closure

The module on special needs of Women and approaches that is effective in helping them find long term recovery is designed to:

·         Identify circumstances that make women particularly vulnerable to substance use disorders, and make women with substance use disorders particularly vulnerable to other conditions

·         Identify elements of treatment and recovery support models designed around women’s needs

·         Identify strengths, challenges, and needs of addicted women in your community

·         Identify obstacles that keep women in your community from receiving the help they need

The module on special needs of Youth and approaches that is effective in helping them find long term recovery is designed to:

·         Identify the adolescent at risk

·         Identify characteristics of youth and the adolescent brain that make young people particularly vulnerable to using drugs and alcohol

·         Identify ways in which drug and/or alcohol use can compromise healthy brain function and development in youth

·         Identify strengths, challenges and needs of youth in your community, particularly youth who are exposed to drugs and alcohol

·         Identify obstacles that keep youth in your community from receiving the help they need

Press Release

PRESS RELEASE

                                                                                                                        19 June 2013

Make health your “new high” in life, not drugs

While South African drug abuse statistics are alarmingly inconsistent, Cathy Vos, Co-ordinator, SANCA National, says it is clear that drug abuse is on the rise, particularly amongst youngsters.

Recent reports from Health Systems Trust suggest that cannabis and Mandrax are the most commonly used illicit drugs, and that between 70-80 percent of the world's consumption of Mandrax (Methaqualone) occurs in South Africa. “Add to that the ‘locally formulated’ drug whoonga, along with the rising use of heroin, cocaine and ecstasy and you have a recipe for destruction and early death,” says Vos.

Whoonga – also called wunga or nyaope – is a potent and highly addictive mixture of marijuana, heroin and HIV medications. “The mixture costs around R20 on the streets, but users quickly reach the point of needing more and more, and the drug becomes unaffordable. Addicts are often forced to turn to crime to accommodate their habit, making the social issues even more difficult.”

In 2012, Dr David Bayever from the government drug control organisation CDA was quoted as saying that that at least 15 percent of South Africans have a drug problem and the number is expected to rise. “While some drugs are produced directly in South Africa, it is also a major trans-shipment hub for importing and exporting them.”

In an effort to highlight the dangers of drugs and the value of knowledge about them, the South African National Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependence (SANCA) is participating in International Drug Day during the week of 26 June 2013. The Official Global Slogan for the International Day the week 26 June 2013 ’Make health your” new high” in life, not drugs’.

The slogan ‘Make health your “new high” in life, not drugs’ was adopted to encourage people to look at the value of their life and how quickly that can be lost due to drug use. It’s also important to note that it’s not just drugs like heroin and whoonga that can steal your life, but over the counter (OTC) medications and steroids, too.

In its quest to be the most effective organisation in the field of prevention and treatment of chemical dependence in South Africa, SANCA offers in- and out-patient treatment options, as well as Adolescent Centres around South Africa. “Besides detoxification, our services include intensive group, family and individual therapy, medical management, children’s groups, drug testing and aftercare,” Vos says.

With drug addiction, prevention is always better than cure: “By the time people get to SANCA, their lives are unmanageable and their physical and mental health is usually bad. Parents and other family members need to talk to their children about drug abuse early, as the age at which people are becoming exposed to drugs is far younger now than ever before”.

“Encouraging ‘getting high on life’ rather than drugs could include assisting youngsters to explore sports and creative activities, where their energies can be spent on healthy pursuits,” says Vos.

Die Aurora Alkohol en Dwelmsentrum in Bloemfontein is ‘n SANCA (South African National Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependency) fasiliteit wat 26 Junie die Internasionale Dag teen Dwelmmisbruik en die Onwettige Handel in Dwelms ondersteun asook die slagspreuk: Laat gesondheid jou euforie (hoogtepunt) in die lewe wees, nie dwelms nie.

Die Aurora Sentrum bied binne-pasiënte behandelingsdienste aan vir jeugdiges tussen die ouderdom van 13 en 18 jaar asook ‘n afsonderlike program vir volwassenes. Persone wat kwalifiseer kan as buite-pasiënte behandel word.

Aurora Sentrum bied ook verskillende  voorkomings- en opleidingsgeleenthede aan.

Indien jy standpunt wil inneem teen dwelmmisbruik is jy welkom om gedurende kantoor-ure ‘n geel metaalstrikkie met ‘n goue sleuteltjie aan vir R10.00 by die Aurora Sentrum te kom koop.

Kontakbesonderhede:

Telefoon: 051 – 447 4111 / faks: 051 – 447 4225

E-pos: info@auroracentre.co.za

Webwerf: www.auroracentre.co.za

Kontakpersoon: Santie Froneman

IDENTIFICATION AND MANAGEMENT OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE TRAINING

Aurora Alcohol and Drug Centre Bloemfontein

Workshop

21 – 23 August 2013

IDENTIFICATION AND MANAGEMENT OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE

                                                   10.5 CPD points

A certificate of attendance can only be issued after completion of the training and if all sessions have been attended.

Fax or mail completed form and deposit slip to Aurora Centre fax nr:  051 – 447 4225/ e-mail:info@ auroracentre.co.za on/before Wednesday, 14 August 2013. SORRY NO LATE REGISTRATION!!

Name: ________________________________

Organisation: __________________________

Address: ______________________________

Telephone: ____________________________

E Mail address: ________________________

Please book ASAP because only a limited number of trainees can be accommodated Cost: R950.00 (for training and light refreshments).

Bank details: ABSA

                       Branch Code:  632005

                       Account:  Cheque

                       Account nr:  470 722 665

Enquiries:  051 – 447 7271/5 Santie Froneman                      

Venue:  Aurora Alcohol and Drug Centre,

15 Brompton Road, Naval View, Bloemfontein                     

SUBSTANCE USE, ABUSE AND DEPENDENCY TRAINING

FACILITATOR: Santie Froneman

PROGRAMME

DAY 1:            09h30 - Registration

10h00 – Welcome

                        10h15 – Icebreaker and ground rules for effective training                          

                        10h45 – Introduction to Drugs; Classification of Drugs; The Road to

                                      Dependency and Short term effects

12h00 – Video: Alcohol and the body – Short term effects & discussion     

            12h30 – Long term effects; Signs and symptoms;

                          Multi – Dimensional Problems

                        13h15 – Lunch

            14h00 – Process of Psychological Dependency and Defence Mechanisms

                        14h45 – Video – Marijuana and human physiology

            15h15 – Motivational Intervention/strategy                                                    

            16h00 – Wrap–up                                                                              

DAY 2:            08h00 – Good morning & Icebreaker

08h15 – Continue Motivational Intervention /strategy

08h45 – Video: Lifestories                                                     

09h45 – Assessment

10h30 – Tea break

11h00 – Continue Assessment and Basic Counselling skills

12h00 – Referring procedures and report writing

13h00 – Lunch                                   

13h45 – Summary Referring procedures

14h00 – Individual Development Plan (IDP)

16h00 – Wrap-up

DAY 3:            08h00 – Good morning & Icebreaker

08h15 – After care: Sobriety Relapses & Bud

10h00 – Video: Surviving Sobriety

10h30 – Tea break

11h00 – High risk factors and triggers

12h00 – Support groups

13h00 – Wrap-up, Evaluation & Closure

13h30 – Lunch                                   

                                                                                                                                             

        SACSSP accredited – CPD Approval no: 425/12 – 10.5 CPD points.

A certificate of attendance can only be issued after completion of the training and if all sessions have been attended.

Annual General Meeting

Annual General Meeting

12 June 2013
16h30 for 17h00

The Management and Staff of The Aurora Alcohol and Drug Centre cordially invite you to the Annual General Meeting to be held at the Aurora Centre 28 Cromwell Road, Naval View, Bloemfontein.

Testimony - Ex patient
Annual reports

RSVP before 7 June at the secretary
051-447 4111

How to say No!

How to Say No to Drugs and Alcohol by wikiHow

To "Just Say No" to drugs and alcohol, one must have a reason and that reason must be that there are more interesting, and productive activities to choose from. It also helps to have an answer to peers who may offer these substances to you. Be strong as sometimes you may have to lie about how much drugs you have had that night, e.g: "I have already had far too much tonight", or, "Sorry dude, it doesn't agree with my chest, I get really bad asthma". When declining the offer keep strong but calm, if you become too abrasive to the dealer there could be consequences, for they are most likely interpreting your decline differently than your meaning. Keep in mind, people who offer you drugs, are most likely on drugs

Consider the following 18 steps:

1.      Realize that abusing drugs may lead to devastating events in people's lives. These could include prison, homelessness, serious medical problems such as an overproduction of serotonin and even death.

2.      Think about what other things in life you can achieve such as activities that are more fulfilling than drugs. Maybe investing in a career, or practicing an instrument. Drugs can destroy family ties, so spend time strengthening bonds with your family and friends.

3.      Examine all activities broadly, to help you Discover What You Really Want from a New Career. Think about the compliments received from utilizing your skills, the rewards of pursuing an interesting career, or how much your new found self-esteem really means to you. Write down your goals and tick each goal as you achieve it. Don't set your goals too high, make sure they are reasonable, or you will just set yourself up for failure.

4.      Compare the results, long term and short term, of your new lifestyle. If you were taking drugs, the results would never be as good.

5.      Realize that enjoying life and pursuing new interests is more satisfying and EASIER (long term anyway) than abusing drugs.

6.      Prepare yourself for occasions where strangers may offer drugs to you. It could be a street corner or a party. By now, you should be able to tell the person why you choose to refuse or chose not to participate in what they are offering.

7.      Try to associate with people who do not use drugs, and avoid situations where they will be used and given to you. Try immersing yourself in activities that are made more difficult by drugs, such as driving, talking on the phone, learning something new, or jogging.

8.      Have a good friend who you can talk to about any situation where you are tempted to take drugs. This will help you be more accountable, and it should provide you with positive feedback from someone who genuinely cares about you.

9.      Remember that the future is full of promise and abusing drugs might rob you of those beautiful things in life.

10.  Look at the list of people who have been destroyed, even killed, by drugs. Just because many Rock Stars, actors or friends use them doesn't make them cool; you must make your own decisions. For every star that looks cool taking drugs, there is one who is in rehab, or has died.

11.  Forgive yourself if you feel you made a mistake by trying drugs. If you don't make mistakes in life, how will you learn? Accept your mistakes and don't be hypocritical when you see people around you making the same mistakes. The thing that matters is what lies ahead of you, not what is in your past. [Leave the Past Behind]. The past has taught you a valuable lesson. Learning from your mistakes has made you a stronger person today.

12.  Just say NO. Make sure you are firm and strong. If you come across as weak the person following you will latch on

13.  Walk away. Try and lose them if at all possible. Find a crowded location or look for somewhere you can find someone responsible and reputable. If you're in school, find a teacher. If you're not in school, move to step 3.

14.  Tell an adult or friend about it. Make sure that you alert the appropriate person about the encounter. Give all the details you can

15.  Call the police or an authoritative person. This step is the one to take if your encounter is outside a school. It is important, however, to perform step 2 before starting to call police. If they hear you, they may become angry or violent.

16.  Avoid further encounters. You should avoid the person who offered drugs at all costs. It would also be advisable to avoid the place where you were encountered.

17.  Change the subject. Example: No thanks, let’s go play some baseball

18.  State a fact. Example: No thanks! My parents would ground me for life!